When we point to this we are talking about behavioral traits. In other words, how we present which includes dressing and modes of expression giving others clues about what gender we are. But how do we feel inside is the most important question which is entirely independent to those visual cues.
This is the part transgender people need to get right and decide who they are.
That video of a young semi closeted trans person I featured showed us how someone can refer to gender only in external terms; one presents one way or another except one isn't more male or female because of just clothing. That journey must be made internally.
I was much more like her when younger but as I have aged there is less separation between the animas (as Jung would probably refer to them). My male and female are fusing into one entity I am happier with each passing day and I no longer separate them in my mind based strictly on sartorial presentation.
I guess what I am also saying as a caveat is that I too thought I knew who I was at 25 but I was wrong.