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It was the colour of cooked strawberries and I fell in love with it right away. Plus, it was on sale.

"It's great color for the fall and it even goes with your lipstick"

She was right but I didn't need the sales pitch since I was already hooked.

I hadn't planned on buying a new purse but both salesgirls thought it suited me and my final inspection in the mirror sealed the deal.

Later at the cash I glanced over at the young woman next to me buying some heels. She was a transwoman I would estimate to be no older than 25 with the slightest husk in her voice but looking lovely and confident. I dared not say anything to her to make her feel uncomfortable because for most people she would fall under the radar but not for me. I took a second glance to be absolutely certain.

There we were, two transwomen from two different generations 30 years and 3 feet apart with the younger one having had a slightly easier road. But I was bouyantly glad for that and I couldn't conceal my glee; I was that happy for her thinking she had her whole life ahead of her.

"You must really love your purse Madame"

"Oh I do!" I said to the young woman cashing me out and walked out of the store with a warm feeling and a smile on my face.


  1. Good for you, hon! I'm keeping an eye out for a new purse, too. Hope I find one as nice as yours...

    1. Thanks Mandy I got it at Aldo which I think is only Canadian store but I am sure you will find just the right one for you :)

  2. The purse does look gorgeous.

    1. Thanks Melissa. I tried to buy just the right size otherwise I pack too much in it!!


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