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There are so many people in this world who have so little. We are exceedingly blessed where we live that we have access to clean water, a roof over our head and food in our stomachs. I think about this more during this season as I see the rampant materialism all around me.

While the best things in life in this world are free, there are certain basics whose absence reduces our ability to be content. The love of our spouses, family and friends and the ability to share of our lives with them are among those core things that are essential to our lives but we cannot truly enjoy those if we fall below the poverty line.

Hence, no matter how bad things might seem to you from where you sit, there is always someone who has it worse. Poverty has gone up in North America over the last 30 years and every metropolitan center has seen an increase in the number of people who live in the street. These are the people who have fallen off the grid and don't show up in those employment statistics that some like to rejoice in. The reality is that the amount of people who fall under the category of the working poor has been going up revealing that something is clearly wrong with our priorities.

As we gather with our friends and/or family this year let us keep this mind and realize how fortunate we are.

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