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if life were kinder

The practice of dating a perfect stranger is only about 100 years old. Before that people were introduced through church functions, their parents or their friends. There had to be a common introduction point and someone had to vouch for you.

Today apps like Tinder allow people to swipe at faces in hopes of a hook up or perhaps the promise of something more. It is hardly a guarantee that anything magical will happen and, with today's unrealistic expectations about finding a soulmate, the concept of "good enough" has been jettisoned in the wake of a pipe dream which only a leisure society can permit itself to entertain. It is interesting for me now at my age watching it from the more distanced perspective of experience and I see people and their attempts to find meaning within themselves while navigating the pitfalls of love. It can sometimes be like two opposing forces which conspire to undo each other because they cannot possibly always align.

Life is lived forwards but if it were kinder it would be experienced backwards so we could take advantage of everything we have learned in this most challenging of endeavors that is human interaction.

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