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I am not convinced when someone says they started dressing at age 4 and they simply like to wear women's clothes. That doesn't quite register. If you started that young your aim was to embody or emulate to the best if your ability a female bodied person. You attempted to put away the male and adorned yourself with the female and the clothes are a symbol of that embodiment. Your gestures and movement even adjusted themselves to suit.

The problem here is language and its inability to convey concepts accurately and wholly descriptively. Some people might call this early desire that they continue to practice: crossdressing. Yet someone else might have trouble finding a definition or use an entirely different term. This is why Benjamin found blurry lines between his types and had to fashion wholly unsatisfactory language to label the patients he saw. However, even if labeling might be a gross simplification, we have little choice because we need to convey concepts and ideas.

In the end, people will use the tags that make them feel comfortable even if they are not entirely accurate. Because humans, being as subtly complex as we are, cannot be entirely captured by a simple moniker.

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