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bit by bit

Earlier in my life, shyness and self conciousness almost consumed me and was one of the primary reasons for not speaking out. Between that and the shame and guilt, I was being eaten alive inside; bit by bit.

This is why it all had to come to a head for me. It was either face my worst fear or perish. The stroke and the divorce were the type of events that had to happen before I began to change my life for the better. I often state here that we can all remake ourselves at any period on our lives and that the consequences of inaction are sometimes far worse than facing up to something that terrifies you.

Today I am living life the way I could never have imagined as the transgender person I wouldn't allow myself to be. Sitting on the other side of that fence it's easy to look back and laugh but it was no laughing matter then; far from it.

Being authentic isn't a choice it is a necessity so if you are not living that life now, try to find ways to approach it for your own benefit. Do it for your happiness and your mental health.

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