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finding the flaw

I can be a complicated person which is both a good and a bad thing. This means I think about and analyze everything and apply a level of discernment which I can tend, on more than one occasion, to overdo. Thus, when I was younger I couldn’t enjoy myself as much as I would have liked and simply let my hair down.

Today I am learning this lesson and can, more freely than ever, enjoy myself as well as the company of others. It is when you are completely at ease with your own identity, that this tends to happen. I still analyze of course, because I cannot help myself and yet it is done with much less of a tendency to find the flaws which, for a long time, I so readily found in myself. I can see the good in everything much sooner while also being able to recognize the aspects I do not favor. The latter is also more readily ignored and chalked up to the imperfection of our existence.

We are all flawed creatures doing our best to get by in a world that doesn’t appreciate any divergence from its dictates. However, the sooner we can learn that we need not subscribe to them all, the happier we will become.

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