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My desire for romantic love is at its lowest point in my history and I am seeing that as a positive. By now I know the pitfalls all too well and I have accustomed myself to finding alternate sources of human interaction which are exceedingly less complex.

I have always been somewhat of a loner anyway so it makes it easier for someone like me to detach from the necessity to pair up. The more I speak to my friends and colleagues about their own lives the more I am convinced that long term relationships seem forever verging on the lip of collapse because they try to balance the wills of two people whose priorities more often than not are not aligned.

It's not that the door is completely closed but it is only just left ajar and it would now take an extraordinary gift of a situation to fall into my lap to reopen it. For I have experienced some pretty big lows I care not to repeat.

So it may sound like a horrible thing to say but, for the moment at least, it feels like I am free from an unnecessary addiction.


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