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If you cannot be entirely happy on your own, you cannot be so by being accompanied by another being since it is not they who bring you contentment; it is you. I have learned this lesson first hand in my life and is now part of my knowledge base which I will carry with me until I am gone. The other person adds company and good times but also a healthy dose of complexity in the problems that they bring to the table. Hence, whilst alone we may suffer from the occasional bout of loneliness, there is great advantage in the freedom one possesses.

When a relationship isn't healthy the minuses will outweigh the pluses adding weight to the adage "better alone than badly accompanied" which is why it is so unfortunate that we make our choices while we are young in life and haven't benefitted from the wisdom that experience and a knowledge of self brings.

While there is no doubt that a good partnership adds meaning to your life, an unhealthy one detracts from your personal advancement and fulfillment which entirely defeats the purpose of the union.

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  1. Musings:

    If you have a minute, I’d really appreciate it if you took a look at Emily’s Virtual Rocket. This is a serious newsblog which has been taken from e-newspapers and e-magazines from around the world, with an emphasis on transgender issues. Also, with his election, I look for articles which critique Donald Trump.

    I hope you enjoy this. Please paste the following:

    Emilysvirtualrocket.blogspot.com

    If you like it, please consider putting it among your favorite blogs. I would greatly appreciate it.

    Sincerely,

    Emily Shorette
    thoreaugreen@gmail.com

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