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I am not necessarily a huge fan of the term transgender woman but we are stuck with it. In the past transsexual women would, as much as humanly possible, transition under the radar and begin new lives with new names. Their past would be erased and they would fashion a new existence for themselves going as far as to marry men who knew nothing of their situation.

This is near to impossible in the age of social media so the qualifier exists and, even women who long ago transitioned, have been outed due to the pervasiveness of this medium in rooting out information.

My friend Sherry, as an example, doesn't think of herself as a trans woman. She doesn't need the qualifier because, as anyone who came upon her would attest, there is absolutely no trace of maleness in her. She is instead, a petite, pretty and very feminine woman.

Today, someone like her would have much more trouble covering her tracks, and yet many of them don't seem to want to. Perhaps it is because they have entirely shed the stigma we grew up with about what was then considered such a drastic undertaking. They post transition videos proudly, trumpeting dramatic changes which a full treatment of HRT does to a young body not yet ravaged by decades of testosterone exposure.

Perhaps, in the not too distant future, we will drop the qualifier which seems to suggest 'less than' and simply let these women be the women they have always been.

Angela Ponce - Miss Spain


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