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We recall our lives in segments: when we were schoolchildren, when we were teens, when we were married, when our children were first born. Not every moment is captured in the memory reel but the flavor of the people we once were seems to remain like a kind of fragrance which leaves its trace behind such that we can call upon it from time to time.

The milestones are also there to remind us of the marking posts of our lives. They offer us a glimpse into the type of person we once were before we grew out of our cocoon and morphed yet again into someone slightly different; hopefully someone more mature and stable.

I sometimes reflect before going to sleep on those phases and how they have helped shape me over time. Every overlap with another person has enriched us somehow and, even if not every experience was always pleasant, there was growth to be found there. The segments are like strips of life DNA in that they form the basis of who we are and, for better or worse, the collation and sequencing have also been decisive.

Nothing is predictable in this life and the more prepared we are for inevitable change, the less jolting it will be when it occurs because we have had a chance to brace ourselves for impact.
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