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expecting to be read

I half expect to be read in certain scenarios but it doesn't happen. The other day I was waiting for my coffee and a mother with her two young daughters were right next to me. There were no odd looks and I was ignored until the older of the two girls and I locked stares for a moment prompting me to smile and having her return a sweet one of her own. She was a preteen girl and she went right back to chatting with her mom.

I have never been so calm and relaxed which probably has a lot to do with it. I just don't care whether I am read or not which only helps me blend in even better.


  1. "I have never been so calm and relaxed which probably has a lot to do with it. I just don't care whether I am read or not which only helps me blend in even better."

    Yep. That, and, while I acknowledge there are those of us who cannot be mistaken for cis, and who will unfairly endure society's wrath, there's also the fact that most people are paying attention to themselves, not others. They're wondering what others think of them. We're all sitting around wondering what other people are thinking about us, and most of the time, they're not paying any attention to us at all. They're more likely to be worried about what we think of them, just as we are worried about what they think of us.

    Certainly, just sitting comfortably in your own skin makes it all the more likely that people's attention won't hone in on you.

    1. That's it; being entirely comfortable on our own skin šŸ˜


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