Yesterday I was in a store and a woman very politely approached me wearing a friendly smile and said
"Madame may I ask you a question? I just read Michelle Leblanc's book and I loved it!"
I knew where she was going and wasting a perfectly good opportunity to do outreach I responded quicker than my brain could keep up.
"Oh but I'm not a transsexual madame" in a very friendly way so that she would not feel embarassed.
She turned a little red and responded "Oh excuse me madame!"
I returned with "I guess I am a little large for a woman and people do sometimes stare at the mall"
For the record I am 6' 1".
"But I am not the least bit insulted and I think you're a very brave soul for coming up to me as most people would not have done so"
She had such a kind smile and such an inquisitive look on her face but I had already taken a proverbial wrong turn at Albuquerque; which I now regretted.
Maybe it was the mood I was in or that I felt I had little time to think and maybe I was upset that I might have been perceived as anything other than a tall genetic woman.
Near the end of our exchange I asked "Why did you think I was a transsexual madame? I guess I don't look feminine enough" I had a big secure smile on my face to show her I was not the least bit insulted.
Her eyes widened and she said "oh no no it was just based on your size!"
She seemed so genuine that I took her at her word and thought to myself: Joanna you wasted a perfectly good opportunity for outreach.
If I bump into her again I plan to correct my error.