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expect the unexpected

If I've learnt anything in my life it's that.

You never know where you will end up or what road you will take to get there. Life is just like that and it seems to thrive on the unpredictable.

That's why I am trying to be smarter about how to live and never get too up or too down because it conserves energy and cushions the big falls that life inevitably has in store.

I have never known someone who has been spared grief or disappointment. There are illnesses and accidents and they bring us to a closer understanding of our mortality. Then time moves on and we forget.

We need to live more as if every day were our last but we are human and weak and are very susceptible to fall back to old habits.

With age I hope I am getting better at learning. Instead of swimming upstream like the salmon I will try and be the sage kayaker who follows the water movement wisely and calmly.

At least I'll try.



Comments

  1. Hi Joanna-

    So interesting about the salmon and the kayaker. On the one hand, with my personal approach to the world and the unexpected I feel like the kayaker, trying my best to go with the flow of the world, but in terms of living in a society filled with people, I feel like the salmon.

    Hmm... deep thoughts for me this morning. Thanks for the thoughts!

    Nadine

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