pinnacle

Gynephilic transsexuals and transgendered people suffer from crossed wiring. This is perhaps a colloquial way of expressing it but I think it applies. What they find desireable in women crosses over into their drive to emulate them.

I have always looked at women with a dual vision. I wanted to be with them but also admired their movements, clothing and mannerisms in terms of wanting to possess them for myself. However this did not happen with people I got close to and actually dated. It's as if it was only meant to be a generalized concept to be put away when a real relationship lay ahead.

Naturally, the more interest I had in the person, the more I would endeavor to quash any transgender feelings in an effort to adopt a normal male role. This still happens today and when N and I are together, those feelings are put away in a proverbial mental drawer; ready to be accessed again in the near future.

The key difference now is that I do not repel the feelings when they return. Instead, I now celebrate them fully as part of the bigger portrait that makes up my personality. Joanna's success has made the male side happier and more confident which is a side effect I had not expected.

For a time I thought that encouragement would strengthen thoughts of transition but the opposite has actually happened; I have become self actualized instead.

Having reached a pinnacle where I no longer dread negative public reaction during my outings, has seen that reaction reduced to virtually non existant levels.

Such is the power of confidence and belief in oneself.





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  1. Great post, Joanna!

    I find this line especially fascinating "Joanna's success has made the male side happier and more confident which is a side effect I had not expected"

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    1. Yes I have found that by fully embracing and not hiding in tne shadows I am much happier. I am not shouting from the rooftops but I don't care if people find out either. All of my close friends and family know and no one has disowned me yet...

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