something to bank on...

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Normally when I get home from work I go out for a bit as Joanna but last night my first instinct was that I probably wouldn't dress. I had a banking appointment to renew my mortgage at 5 pm and decided I wouldn't bother. But then I thought the better of it and decided to dress anyway. I was sure that the banking representative wouldn't mind and in fact a previous bank manager there, who has since left the branch, already knew I was transgendered and had absolutely no problem with it.

The person I ended up meeting with was a young (under 30) and very polite man who gave me very courteous service. I felt I needed to preamble our discussion by mentioning that I was transgendered, but without missing a beat he said that someone there at the branch was also trans plus he had already dealt with other customers like me.

In ended up being a very positive experience indeed and another indication of how the world is getting smaller and more savvy everyday. So with very little fanfare I went about my business, once again confirming that I need not second guess myself when it comes to these matters. Just get dressed and go out the door and don't give it a second thought.



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  1. Pat Scales28 August 2014 at 08:13

    Outstanding. Every step forward for one is a step forward for all.
    Pat

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