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some people never learn

It always makes me chuckle but does not surprise. An anonymous poster invariably comments on the blog of someone who has not transitioned to say either:

• Thank God you at least have the choice
• Mentions transvestic fetishism
• Talks about transsexualism as a medical condition

Firstly, we all have a choice as to whether we transition or not. If it is the right thing we will and if it is not we won’t. Implying that it is a medical condition requires a medical marker and unfortunately none exists to date. There is no conclusive brain chemistry or DNA evidence that would give merit to this argument.

Insistence on the part of the patient is also not indicative. I can offer numerous examples of late transitioners who did the right thing and early transitioners who did not. ThirdWayTrans is a good example of the latter and his site is worth a visit due to his excellent ability to analyse this very complex topic. There are many other examples.

Tranvestic fetishism is a tired old phrase which might refer to fetish dressers who tried on their mother’s lingerie after puberty, liked it and now masturbate regularly in same . These people are not representative of our larger community of transgender people who are actually suffering from varying degrees of gender dysphoria and you will not find this descriptor used by anyone of repute who works in the field of diagnosis or treatment of transgendered people.

Apparently some in our community have very outdated and preconceived notions and it would benefit them to educate themselves before making pronouncements such as the ones I mentioned.

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  1. Personally I hate the vast readily available websites seemingly dedicated to transvestic fetishism. Fairly recently I have tried to distance myself from the words 'crossdresser' and 'tranvestite.' I used to openly use those words, but after seeing some definitions of them and especially what normally comes up in Google when searching for them, ugh! That is so not me!

    I wish there was some sort of universally understood term that described those of us that have these inner gender variances. It would make for some vastly easier discussions with the uneducated.

    Thanks for the thoughts Joanna!

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    1. Nadine, if you were a fetish dresser you would know it. I know you are not one but some people think they can paint all of us with the same brush!

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  2. If there were one group of people in the world who fully understand that the concept of "one size fits all" is a falsehood it would be us.
    In recognition that there is no one size fits all and that none of the available terms fit all of I call myself. I am a man who thrives on dressing as a woman. I suppose the activity itself is cross dressing. If that makes me a crossdresser so be it.
    Pat

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  3. thanks to both of you for your thoughts!

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  4. many people who have gone on to transition have had sexual release but then you know that very well if you have read your stuff and I know you have Senrub. Any eroticism present is a symptom of dysphoria but not the cause and is not to be confused with transvestic fetishism where there is not identification with a female anima but merely erotic satisfaction present. Most gynephilic transsexuals have a history of what our friend Dr Blanchard terms AGP but they still transition do they not? if it were just a fetish there would be no reason to transition. Nice try though....

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