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Stana of Femulate

I have been following Stana’s blog for several years now. She is successfully balancing her commitments of being a husband and father while still having a life as a part time woman and represents for me a role model of a gender variant person who has found a winning formula. She helped show me what can be achieved when you remove obstacles like guilt and shame and work on creating a positive situation for yourself.

When I was still struggling with my gender variance, I saw her blog as a beacon of hope for what could be achieved with the right mindset and attitude.

I know it’s probably not easy for her wife but then we all have challenges in life and having a husband who dresses in women’s clothes is superior to one who cheats or abuses either verbally or physically.

The secret to Stana’s formula is that she is confident and has an understanding of her own nature. She is a woman in her heart and goes about making that happen within the confines of her life reality. She is less concerned about plumbing and instead focuses on what’s between our ears and in our hearts.

If that’s not success I don’t know what is.


Comments

  1. Stana8 October 2014 at 05:41

    Wow, Joanna, I didn't see that coming! Thank you for the very kind words. Very kind indeed!

    Stana

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  2. joanna Santos8 October 2014 at 05:43

    My pleasure Stana and keep up the good work!

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  3. Abigale's Airings8 October 2014 at 22:50

    I'll second that if I may.

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  4. Marian9 October 2014 at 00:18

    Joanna - I have had the pleasure of meeting Stana in person, and she's great! She's an inspiration for me too - and looks much better than I do, as her lesser weight is distributed over a taller 5'14" frame.

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  5. Paula_569 October 2014 at 03:16

    I started to tear up when I read about Stana she is really my big sister in so many ways and has inspired us all.

    This sums it all:

    "She helped show me what can be achieved when you remove obstacles like guilt and shame and work on creating a positive situation for yourself. Stana

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  6. Pat Scales9 October 2014 at 10:00

    Like many, Stana's is the first blog that I look to when I go on line and I keep Femulate active when I am online. Stana has introduced me to you and to so many others and as I have mentioned to another blogger that I follow "fortis in unitas". There is strength in unity. As as each lives their life and relates their experiences along the gender highway we all gain strength.

    Pat

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  7. joanna Santos9 October 2014 at 10:19

    there is strength in unity indeed Pat!

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  8. Joanna Cale12 October 2014 at 09:45

    I'll just echo the choir, and also add the rather unnecessary point that I think you've hit the nail on the head.

    I hope that your statement on having someone such as us as a spouse is better than an abusive or cheating spouse will eventually be seen as the truth it is. Thank you for the reminder, it was timely.

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