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the discourse here

Every once in a while this blog draws fire but not very often which is why I don't screen comments for approval and I don't plan to change that. AQV (aka Senrub or sensual rub for short) has been banned from crossdreamers and likely a number of other sites for basically fanning the flames to protect what she sees as an incursion by perverted males into her territory of womanhood; a neighborhood I don't seek to move into.

For the record, everything I say in this blog you will find is backed by people such as Julia Serano, Jamie Veale, Lynn Conway, Andrea James, Anne Vitale and a host of others whose experience in this field is second to none. My own discussions with my own therapist lines up with them as well. All have deep reservations about the work of Ray Blanchard who also happens to think that all transsexuals are men plain and simple.

For some reason, some androphilic transsexuals become very agitated and will pounce at the very suggestion that the driver for their transition may in some way resemble the condition suffered by other gynephilic gender dysphorics.

I strongly believe that gender dysphoria is universally linked and has common roots. It varies in strength from person to person which is why Harry Benjamin saw fit to use a scale to measure his patients. If you haven't read this important work I strongly urge you to do so.

Everything I have read from the experts continues to feed into this idea and it is likely a matter of time before new theories are developed and Blanchard's input into the DSM becomes replaced with something superior and hopefully more scientific.

I encourage discourse here but not baiting from people with not so hidden and very transparent agendas.


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