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To answer Mario Red who posted on my blog the question of how do we know we are sane? I think we are and I would argue that we are even more sane than most.

Most of us gender dysphorics are extremely curious about what makes us tick and why we are this way. No one wants to be abnormal and once we notice this difference of ours early on in our lives many of us desperately want to understand it.

I hold two university degrees, speak three languages and have worked in a challenging technical field for 25 years. I am literate and can hold my own with anyone on just about any topic. I know I am perfectly sane and I started this blog as an extension of my lifelong curiosity about this very complex condition that we don’t seem to have answers for. We have needed to develop our own mythologies around it because no one is filling the void that exists between conjecture and reality.

One day, science will find a definitive answer.

Transgender people for the most part tend to be well educated and well read; we need to be in order to try and understand ourselves. But I think the danger can come in jumping to conclusions about what our condition means. You can believe what you want but that belief may or may not be correct.

It is the opinion of this blogger that you do the absolute minimum to stay mentally healthy and happy and that you do your homework before attempting something as dramatic as a physical transition. Many people have had their lives and marriages destroyed because of it and the results are not always better on the other side.

I have attempted to stick to whatever science exists and to feature it here because it bears examining. Blanchard, Benjamin and others observed the same things but their conclusions were different. For Benjamin it was a psychopathological disorder possibly originating at birth while for Blanchard it’s borne more out of sexual paraphilia rooted in childhood. The fact is that no one really knows for sure but the condition is real because we deal with it every day of our lives.

So are we sane? You better believe we are.

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