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We have come to a fork in the road where we never imagined we’d be. People are asking themselves what makes a man or a woman and the ensuing opinions sometimes fall along political lines.

Very broadly, conservative people tend to think of birth sex as the determining factor whereas liberals tend to be more in tune with the idea that the identity in our brain is what determines our true gender.

This is an issue that is increasingly coming to the foreground as transgender people are more visible and enter into our mainstream existence. They want to join the scouts or enter a beauty pageant and suddenly we are faced with a dilemma. This will only be happening more frequently as transgender people, because they don't desire to or cannot, do not begin their new lives in stealth.

But what should be the right answer?

I think the common sense approach would be to let people be who they are. Already we suffer enough discrimination along gender lines without the transgender question being present. Women tend to be paid less for equal work and are generally seen as being less stable employees because of the question of pregnancies and maternity leaves. I know this is slowly changing but we are not where we need to be.

Now add the explosive cocktail of the transgender question and things get even more complex.

I feel that having these questions rise to the surface is a good thing because it forces us to examine them and not bury our heads in the sand and plead ignorance. What we are seeing of course is an explosion of ignorant comments and opinions but that is to be expected. It took me many years to begin to understand my own condition so how can we expect the public to suddenly get it overnight?

No these changes will not come easily but they will come whether some people like it or not. Transgender people are challenging the courts and the institutions that have been built along a gender divide that wasn’t always fairly established nor justifiable.

What will hopefully happen is that by closely re-examining our basic beliefs we will witness a new level of tolerance which provides better outcomes for all.


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  1. I have been putting my thoughts together on this subject of pay discrimination. Broadly speaking I think most firms will use any rule of thumb to keep there costs down - though I may be wrong ?
    So over a period of time I shall ask some of the women SEO's that I know, what rule they apply.

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