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a chat with my son

My son and I had a great heart to heart yesterday. At 15 I can see him developing into quite an intelligent young man.

It's not easy to grow up. It wasn't easy during my time and if anything it might be harder today. We have information overload in the form of social media and perhaps more peer pressure than ever to fit in and conform.

My son feels a bit like a loner and I can relate to that feeling. He is quiet, shy and reflective and that isn't a recipe for social popularity. We have been bonding as he ages and as my daughter and I distance ourselves with time he has filled that gap that she once occupied. He physically resembles my father in many ways and has a sense of calm that I much admire and even envy.

I am glad that I am able to help him through these turbulent years that will see him try and find his own unique identity in this world.

I told him that being yourself and building your mind is the best approach to dealing with the challenges that lie ahead in life. He seems to already be well on his way by the kinds of questions he asks and in his ability to analyze the world around him.

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