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Thanks to all of you for the feedback you provide me. It doesn't need to be voluminous; it just needs to be thoughtful and interesting and on that front you have delivered.

Thanks to Jack Molay for his good work over at Crossdreamers and for supporting my writings.

Thanks also to Calie over at T-Central. The best kind of support is that which comes from others facing the same challenges and victories.

A peaceful Christmas and a Fulfilling New Year ahead to all of you. I would say happy but we know that life always brings ups and downs. The important thing is to know how to navigate the minefields.

See you in January.


  1. And a peaceful Christmas to you, Joanna. Been trying to navigate the minefields but having a hard time of it as of late. I know I said I'd write and I will.

    Thanks for the shout-out!

    Calie xxx

    1. You can write anytime Calie. Looking forward to it!

  2. Merry Christmas Joanna. I look forward to reading your blog in the new year.


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