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conditional love

All of this openness about transgender issues in the media is showing everyone what we already instinctively knew: that there isn't really a perfect gender binary. Fear of prejudice and rejection kept people from coming out. Well now they're out and it's a bit of a kaleidoscope. Yes there are cases that make us shake our head and so what? People have a right to express themselves so long as they do no harm to others.

We are still talking about a statistically small slice of the population but it would make little sense if there were anomalies everywhere else in nature expect in this area. What we do now is pivotal and the policies and laws that nations adopt will have far reaching effects on the ability of transgender and transsexual people to lead normal and productive lives. But even if you identify as neither you should expect protection from laws meant to safeguard freedom of expression and diversity.

I grew up in an extremely religious household and yet the extremism of some people today disturbs me. Some Christians claim to follow Christ and yet compliment that with a disdain for anything they do not comprehend or does not fit into their little black and white portrait of how things should be. If you have lived a while you will note just how little the concept of black and white actually describes the world we live in.

People want to be loved and will forsake being themselves in order to obtain that most precious commodity. This is what makes us think we need to conform and in some cases that turns out to be true. But is conditional love based on someone else's vision for your life ultimately the best kind?

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If you feel you are doing something wrong it shows. Your demeanor, body language and facial expression all conspire to betray you.

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Misinterpreted religion is a big culprit in all this. These negative images of yourself came from reinforcement of stereotypes by ignorant people interpreting what is right and moral by their own barometer. You simply ingested the message and bought it as the gospel truth. Self confidence and critical thinking is the way out of your dilemma. It can…