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the elder stateswoman

Kate Bornstein makes me laugh. There is an enchanting quality about her that only an older person who has lived a while can possess. She transitioned many years ago and now at the age of 67 considers herself neither a man nor a woman. She is more akin to a gender outlaw which is the title of a book she wrote years ago.

I remember reading it and finding myself to be in much agreement with what she said.

When asked about the gulf between trans-exclusionary radical feminists (TERFS) and transgender people she answered:

“I think the only people who listen to trans-exclusive radical feminists are transgender women. They call themselves feminists but it’s not the kind of feminist I ever knew. Who is paying attention to them? Seriously. So some people don’t think you’re a woman. So? It’s much more important to know you’re a woman than to depend on someone’s approval.” You only care, she adds, “If they are in positions of power”

That is what makes Kate Bornstein just a little bit different.


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  1. Joanna,

    I just want to say, I love your writing. Thank you.

    Hugs,

    Emma

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  2. very much appreciated Emma. Thank you,

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