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no more artificial standard

Maybe I'm being naive but I would like to see the day when gender fluidity is no longer an issue and people can be themselves. Yes there will always be those who need to fully transition but those who don't require it should be comfortable being who they really are.

It's already starting to happen in the modeling and entertainment industries but has not gone mainstream yet and trans people are still targets for violence in less enlightened places of our world.

No there isn't going to be a mass movement towards gender variance but those of us born different will have as much chance to feel normal like the rest of society does. This means no more chastisement from a young age and trying to turn us into something we are not.The current model is based on artificial standards about what a man and woman are supposed to be like.

There are bigger changes to come as we progress further into the 21st century and we will look back to this age as a period of growing pains as we become a more advanced and tolerant society.

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  1. I think this recent NPR article and show speaks to exactly the change you're referring to: http://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2016/04/11/473292576/parent-support-may-help-transgender-childrens-mental-health

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  2. be sure to check out that link Emma thanks!

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