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rubber hits the road

Transgender people cover a wide spectrum of society. They come from all walks of life in terms of ethnicity, education levels and professions. This has made trying to label them in one sweep of the brush exceedingly difficult.

As they come out of the woodwork it becomes challenging to stereotype them. Compare today with even 10 short years ago and the difference is nothing short of remarkable.

This has served to discredit further those who would look for simplistic theories to marginalise and dismiss their reality. As mentioned two posts ago the work of Freund and Blanchard is all but entirely discredited. If that weren’t the case we wouln't have government institutions and the courts enacting laws to protect trans people.

The Blanchardians have now retreated to Twitter where they can feed off each other’s academic hubris.

After all what do you do when members of police forces, judges, politicians and litigators are themselves transitioning or admitting to their gender variance? these are credible and professional people and not sex workers on a seedy corner of the city.

Everything I write in this blog about gender is overriden by reality. The rubber hits the road when someone needs support and guidance and, with today's transparency, more people are willing to offer it and act as role models.

Society may not completely understand what to do with us yet but increasingly people are starting to personally know a transgender person. As recently as a decade ago it was far easier to be dismissive.

It ain't so easy anymore.

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  1. Ain't so easy says it all!

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  2. From my perspective there is a common denominator - affluence or living in an affluent society. Of course I'm not in a position to quantify my opinion nor have I read any study that would add weight to my argument. Still I am of the opinion that hunger and/or living without the absolute necessities of life have a way of driving out other considerations.

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    1. I don't disagree with you Kati. We are in a position in the West to be able to live in a manner that we desire based on economic power that other places do not. That affluence brings with it choice.

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