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the decreasing importance and strength of the erotic component

I have reflected many times on how the erotic component in my desire to express myself as a woman has waned in importance and intensity over time. I used to read about this regression in the narratives of older gynephilic transgender persons but had not experienced it for myself. Now I have.

While this aspect is most definitely not driving me towards transition I acknowledge that it simply exists and no longer causes distress. To be frank, removing it altogether would have made my thought process far clearer and simpler.

Think of it this way: if it were the only driving element at play then gynephilics who transition should immediately regret their decision since they have removed the engine that drives the desire. The fact this does not happen should be proof enough that there is much more going on.

Consider also that satisfaction rates among gynephilics and androphilics who transition are statistically comparable. It’s like two sets of people arriving at the same location via different roads.

Hence, a transgender identity cannot possibly be built upon perversion like the Blanchardians and a host of others who would deny access to bathrooms would have you believe.

At a lower echelon consider the drag queen and the heterosexual crossdresser. Each has slightly different motivations but to the untrained eye they are doing the same thing: indulging in something that is a natural tendency and arguably part of their identity. Additionally, neither needs or wants to transition.

As one increases the level of gender dysphoria the consideration of transition becomes more relevant and more pertinent. And even that means different things to different people.

Also as gynephilics begin to transition younger than ever we can clearly see many of the myths that were propagated being dispelled.

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