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transitional thoughts

Life is a transition.

We age and we change and our mindset morphs from decade to decade. Thus my understanding of who I am as a person has come a long way over the years.

I used to think of transition as going from one gender to the other but that is not actually true; at least it’s not true for all of us. My transition has been to go from a scared individual to one who has embraced self-acceptance and no longer worries about labels.

My concern about what category I fit in has melted away to reveal a broader and more expansive understanding of my own gender identity and expression. That process has taken many years and I now understand very well those blogs that described transition as a prolonged affair. It is not like going from man to woman in an instant but more about developing a new mindset over time that takes into account many aspects that go beyond just clothing.

Being transgender is not easy and there is no guiding document where you can find answers. Therefore you seek them from within and hopefully gain a new nugget of wisdom as time goes on.

If that growth makes you a better and more balanced individual then you have achieved something worthwhile.


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