my expression

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Over the years my feminine expression has morphed. I used to call myself a crossdresser because that was the closest definition that I could find for myself and because I desperately didn't want to be a transsexual.

I have dropped all the definitions now and just call what I do treating my dysphoria.

But I haven't borrowed anything from anyone for many years and every stitch of makeup, clothing and shoes is my own. I don't really crossdress anymore I just dress. Along with that progression has been increasing comfort and peace.

Perhaps that is a litmus test for those of you who crossdress and are concerned about it: does it make your life better or worse overall? Is it an activity that stops you from living life to the fullest or part of your identity? I think if you can answer those questions honestly you will know what it means.

That progression need not mean I am that much closer to transition but rather repatriating all aspects into one complete person.

Comments

  1. Liza2 July 2016 at 20:23

    yes i jsut call myself transgender.....

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  2. joanna Santos3 July 2016 at 03:14

    Sounds like the perfect descriptor Liza

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  3. Christina Cross15 January 2022 at 10:23

    I initially called myself a crossdresser when I "came out to myself" and began to finally accept myself. I thought it would be a hobby. But over time I started dressing every day at home. I had a choice and always chose dressing femininely. Now, I feel my dressing matches more of my personality. I am not crossdressing but as you say....just dressing. I consider myself "gender fluid" and someone that shades to the female side but I haven't given up my male side. I think this is where I will sit moving forward. Basically, I just had to accept and not hide from my feminine side and I learned not only did I have a feminine side, but that that side was more me than my male side.

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    1. joannaS15 January 2022 at 12:26

      It takes a long time to figure ourselves out! I'm glad you are

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