my expression

Over the years my feminine expression has morphed. I used to call myself a crossdresser because that was the closest definition that I could find for myself and because I desperately didn't want to be a transsexual.

I have dropped all the definitions now and just call what I do treating my dysphoria.

But I haven't borrowed anything from anyone for many years and every stitch of makeup, clothing and shoes is my own. I don't really crossdress anymore I just dress. Along with that progression has been increasing comfort and peace.

Perhaps that is a litmus test for those of you who crossdress and are concerned about it: does it make your life better or worse overall? Is it an activity that stops you from living life to the fullest or part of your identity? I think if you can answer those questions honestly you will know what it means.

That progression need not mean I am that much closer to transition but rather repatriating all aspects into one complete person.


  1. yes i jsut call myself transgender.....

  2. Sounds like the perfect descriptor Liza

  3. I initially called myself a crossdresser when I "came out to myself" and began to finally accept myself. I thought it would be a hobby. But over time I started dressing every day at home. I had a choice and always chose dressing femininely. Now, I feel my dressing matches more of my personality. I am not crossdressing but as you say....just dressing. I consider myself "gender fluid" and someone that shades to the female side but I haven't given up my male side. I think this is where I will sit moving forward. Basically, I just had to accept and not hide from my feminine side and I learned not only did I have a feminine side, but that that side was more me than my male side.

    1. It takes a long time to figure ourselves out! I'm glad you are


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