Now that I can more dispassionately reflect on arousal patterns in trans people, I think I have come to some conclusions about them. Firstly, there is often an expressed early wish which is repressed (by well meaning parents perhaps) in wanting to be female and that denial builds tension which as puberty is entered can take on sexual overtones. The trans identity is definitely there from the outset and almost certainly biologically sourced, only that the repression produces this effect. Secondly, other forms of gender variance can produce similar outcomes as we can see in the sissy sub-culture where some people infantilize their behaviour by imagining being petticoated boys or dressing up as school girls for example. Again, likely due to repressed wishes becoming sexual fantasy into adulthood. Even Blanchard noted that there was some cross bleeding into his supposedly purely androphilic group with their arousal patterns albeit a smaller percentage than gynephilics who Blanchard erron
I remember my mother insisting once that "Oh no, we cannot hang out the laundry to dry on a Sunday. What would the neighbors think!" She was not a very religious person, but the fear of embarrassment and social ostracision was so strong that this was not possible.
ReplyDeleteRoxy's tragedy might be caused by this simple mechanism: Fear of embarrassment.
And I suspect this is also how sensitive people become people pleasers. We sense this fear and do everything we can to help our loved ones to avoid that embarrassment, sacrificing our own happiness in the process.
I find it hard to find room in my heart for forgiveness when it comes to people like her family members.
I am afraid that I am the same Jack although I have been fortunate in that my family has been very understanding. I cannot for the life of me understand how people can be so cruel...
DeleteHer story is so heart wrenching. Amazing how three siblings and parents just turned their backs on her. As Roxy said, their actions speak volumes about their character. Thank goodness for her older brother, his family, and her wife and daughter. I can well imagine how distraught she must feel.
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