Every Sunday I see a young usher at Mass wearing a suit and tie just like all the others except that this one happens to be a young woman.
We all need to wear masks sometimes.
Certain jobs require a unisex uniform or that no jewellery be worn. It doesn’t make the person any different on the inside.
It gets even more complicated if the person is transgender and they would like the option to present differently. But then imagine yourself being employed in a fortune 500 company, being a male and wanting to wear a dress and heels to work. Some things just aren’t done because we are considered to be a distraction or deemed to be going too far. It changes nothing about who you are except that you are now confusing others and that is not allowed.
Gender and it’s expression are sacrosanct to many which is why everyone looks like a carbon copy and few are brave enough to bend the rules.
But then what if you never crossdress like my friends Calie or Jack Molay. Does that make you any less gender dysphoric? I for one don’t think so.
I am trans and am always going to be regardless of the mask I am wearing at the time. The key is accepting and repatriating what used to be an unwelcome appendage and working out our internal mechanics in order to achieve our liberation.