getting past the fear
An identity is far more than about clothing and those of us who went through phases where we thought we were “just crossdressers” understand this very well. It was perhaps a way to deny that deep down there was far more to this than first met the eye only we dare not admit it to ourselves. Most of the older transgender people I know advanced to a greater and deeper personal understanding once they began to be honest with themselves. The next step then became coming to terms with the depth of the feelings. Those who moved on to social, partial or full transitions sometimes only varied by circumstances such as finances, spousal situation or religious beliefs and indeed transgender people in past centuries could only dream about the possibilities of transition. Regardless of what you ever called yourself or identified as, many of us surprised ourselves with the knowledge that we were further along on the spectrum than we first thought. The main reason for this was undoubtedly fear bas