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It is too late. Gun culture is engrained in the DNA of Americans.

No other country in the world sees anywhere close to the amount of mass shootings. You can argue that they represent a blip on the radar but they are disturbing nonetheless because they play on the peace of mind of its citizens. You never know when crazy uncle Harry is going to go on a shooting rampage.

Americans must now worry about being mowed over by an ISIS disciple in an SUV or shot down by one of their own neighbours who everyone described as “just an ordinary guy next door”

We in Canada don’t understand the need to own guns and we don’t settle our disagreements that way. There are still parts of this country where people leave their doors unlocked at night. I remember being in the Maritimes and having people tell me that. As someone from a big city I found it surprising and I have done it in error on a number of occasions and nothing has occurred.

Forget the NRA or trying to limit gun ownership it’s all too late because it is an aspect so engrained in the population of America that any action would be a drop in the bucket of a bottomless ocean which began on a frontier with settlers protecting homesteads from natives who rightfully felt cheated out of their lands. The Spanish did the same and so did the British and the French but somehow in America the safety found in owning a weapon remained while the Europeans never moved beyond the idea that they were meant for armies instead of ordinary folk. An ancient U.S. amendment meant for another time became an excuse to not advance beyond its original intent.

The streets of Chicago, New York or Los Angeles are not the wild west and neither is a nondescript little one horse town in Texas but you wouldn’t know it. That little town's answer to this shooting? consider arming themselves to the teeth even when they attend church service.

Something is very deeply wrong.



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