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I was in the Erin Mills shopping center recently and at my usual coffee spot. The woman ahead of me turns around and says "Oh hi!"

It takes me a moment but then I say

"Where do you work again?" Trying to recall where I have seen her.

"At the Sears that's where I've seen you. You know we're closing right?"

"Yes I do, I'm sorry to hear that"

"It's a blessing in disguise my dear. I needed an excuse for a change and may I say you are so well put together. I love your makeup"

I thanked her profusely and then we spoke for several more minutes before parting ways.

Not five minutes later making my way with a coffee in hand two little girls dressed in princess dresses almost barrel into my knees. They couldn't have been older than 6 and 4.

"Watch the lady" the mother scolds.

"She is so cute" I told the mother pointing at the youngest scrambling to get up..

"Actually that's my son and he likes to dress up"

"Good for you just let them be who they are" I said smiling.

"Oh we don't mind M'am" she smiled back at me and I looked at the father looking perfectly at ease. It took me back when I was the same age as that 4 year old in the princess dress who took all those decades to come to terms.

I was so proud to see how things are changing and walked away with a huge smile on my face.

That little boy may be going through an innocent phase or maybe he's trans but at least he has the support of two parents who will love him or her no matter what.


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  1. I'm happy that at least some parents are raising their kids these days with more tolerance than I saw decades ago.

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    1. Here in Seattle it seems like the perfect time to be born transgender. Excellent resources (present and emerging), awareness and support. The Gender Odyssey conference is dropping its program for older trans people and focusing entirely on the family and young-people program which is exploding in demand. I personally know a half-dozen parents of trans kids who're so involved, loving, and wonderful.

      If I wasn't so concerned about what the world, will go through in this and future centuries I'd wish I was 6 years old or younger now. I wish I didn't sound so cynical but there it is.

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