Many of us have hit that wall and it is very unpleasant. For me it was the realization that I wasn’t a hesitant crossdresser but instead a gender dysphoric deep in denial. I was someone who needed guidance and so I reached out for it in desperation.
Being screened at the gender clinic and undergoing therapy that would eventually lead towards self-acceptance has been one of the most difficult things I have ever had to go through. Add to that my stroke in my mid 40’s and my divorce and everything was falling apart around me. I had to slowly rebuild from scratch. There have still been bumps along the way and unexpected things have happened but I am still standing and probably far richer for the experience for I have learned more about myself and about human nature along the way.
My ideals on romantic love have been fractured however arriving at a level of peace around my gender dysphoria has been supremely important.
In the end I have come to the conclusion that being trans must be interwoven into the fabric of your life and whoever shares it with you must wholly embrace it. This is why I now counsel trans people to be proud and not to accept being tolerated for it is far better for us to be fully realized beings and alone than to hide such an important facet.
You might be a square peg in a round hole but you can still advance in life with both grace and dignity intact.