real life

One of my brother’s sons came out to my son this past week as being gay. I wasn’t all that surprised because he had shown signs in early adolescence as having a penchant for wearing princess dresses. I made the mental note at the time that he was either going to be trans or gay and didn’t think about it much again as he grew.

For quite a while I began to doubt he was either and chalked up his early exploration as a rite of passage but then this recent unveiling came along to confirm things.

My son called me to decry the objections of his religious parents who aren’t overjoyed with the news. He has told his cousin about me who in turn used my situation during talks with them. I for one am glad he came out at the tender age of 17 and not wait untill his forties like I did.

I told my son that I support his cousin 100% and that he should not hesitate to call me and if needs to. This bit of news will hopefully open the eyes and ears of orthodox parents who might have preferred that this happen to some other family.

In the past when the subject of homosexuality came up between my son and his cousin, the latter would use derogatory language he had heard at home in an effort to detach himself from inclinations which he had no hand in creating. I deeply hope they all come to terms and this teaches my brother and sister in law a valuable lesson in tolerance.

In this extended family of 22 children it had to happen and statistically that 10% has proven to be correct with my niece and now with my nephew coming out.

Real life has a way of doing that.


  1. Perhaps make the same offer to his parents to call you? Also, I suggest his parent search for videos of Dr, Mark Yarhouse on YouTube. Dr. Yarhouse is a Christian scholar as well as a psychologist, and often speaks to church leadership about diversity.


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