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chapter listing

Here is the chapter listing for my book which is now 70% complete (I have been prolific of late). I haven't yet looked into the online publishing site I will use but perhaps some of you who have gone through this process before can provide suggestions.

Chapter 1 - My Origins
Chapter 2 - The Next Phase of my Life
Chapter 3 - A Brief History of the Research
Chapter 4 - Can We be Cured?
Chapter 5 - Confidence
Chapter 6 - Yes, but am I a Woman?
Chapter 7 - Enemies of Transgender People
Chapter 8 - The Problem of Cross-Gender Arousal
Chapter 9 - Self-Acceptance and Finding Love
Chapter 10 - Who I am
Chapter 11 - My Experiences in Public
Chapter 12 - What is Gender?
Chapter 13 - Religion and being Trans
Chapter 14 - You go girl!
Chapter 15 - Guilt and Shame: the Dynamic Duo
Chapter 16 - Okay, but should I Transition?
Chapter 17 - Rise of the Millenials
Chapter 18 - Vive la Difference!
Chapter 19 - Authenticity
Chapter 20 - What I have Learned


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“My situation is a little particular and if you don’t mind I can share something about myself”

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