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You might be tempted to think that trans kids are a relatively new phenomenon in our society. Indeed, we have seen many of them come out over the last 10 years or so however they are hardly an invention of the 21st century. In the not too distant past these kids would have just kept quiet, tried to blend in and dare not say anything to parents who would have beat them silly, taken them straight to psychotherapy or perhaps perform an exorcism on them. Imagine coming out as a trans kid in 1969; I don't think that would have gone over too well for most of them.

Trans kids can now come out due to a new environment where parents, educators and society in general is making it easier to do so. Our level of education on this subject is exponentially greater than when we were kids. All those baby boomers who would have been just like these children simply shut their mouths and suppressed if they knew what was good for them. Don't get me wrong, I am ecstatic for these kids only that they are not a new product that has just been invented; they have existed since human beings have been on this planet and eventually grow up to be transgender adults.

Also note that for some activists the term trans kid is code for "homosexual transsexual" (don't you just love that ancient term) which only captures part of the picture since among this demographic there will be both orientations and those who are asexual until post-transition. Today's more open environment will see those children whose identity misaligns with orientation come out sooner and find accepting partners rather than wait as we boomers and gen-Xers did. Trans kids will also necessarily include among their ranks future trans men as well as trans women which is entirely logical based on what we see in today's world.

I for one couldn't be happier for them.

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  1. "Imagine coming out as a trans kid in 1969; I don't think that would have gone over too well for most of them." Never a truer word spoken, Joanna. I was a trans kid in a small town on the Oregon Coast in 1969. When I came out to my 81 year old mom last year she said she wished I had told her sooner so she could have helped me. I asked her how she thought she would have helped? There were no resources anywhere near we lived. The closest city with any resources would have been Portland-four hours away. I thanked her but told her not to worry about that topic because the truth is, there was not much she could have done to help.

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    1. the times were not right back then for us Marcia and society simply wasn't ready

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  2. I heartily agree with Marcia. My earliest memories of doing things, wishing for things, and envies, was when I was four or five, 1960-ish. I believe I expressed myself to my parents because of things they said and did in later years. They're both long gone so no opportunity to tell them and ask.

    I'm also in absolutely full and envious support of today's trans kids. I know several personally—they're wonderful. I do envy them growing up with so much more than we had. What would my life have been like had I not carried my burden of shame for so many decades? That said I seriously started looking into my gender dysphoria in 2014 which was so luckily coincident with so many positive things for us.

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  3. we were all living in the dark ages back then and as a seven year old in 1969 I dare not say a word to my parents. Things have indeed changed for the better....

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