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a tiny slowdown

Rather than take an extended break as I have done before I am not necessarily going to post daily any longer. There will be selected days where I have little to post about and prefer that to writing just for its own sake.

The blog isn’t going anywhere but just slowing down a tad.

Writing my book took some energy and that is part of the reason.


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  1. Hi Joanna, there was a time (a year ago?) when you also contemplated downshifting and I asked you not to. You didn’t and I greatly appreciated it. Last year was so tumultuous for me, I so needed your writings which often provided me with valuable food for thought. These days I’m doing well in so many areas I feel that I have to pinch myself as if to wake from a dream. You and your blog were there when I needed them. Thank you.

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    1. You helped me to fuel the posting so thank you Emma 😁

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  2. We all need to pace ourselves. I noted how frequently you post and wonder how that wasn't exhausting you. It'd exhaust me! Blog when it's good for you.

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  3. Your lovely book was worth the ALL the energy you devoted to it!

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  4. Please do whatever you feel is best for you. An interesting daily blog and a book as well so you could be feeling the strain. Note to self: ought to buy your book!

    Melissa

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