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For those of you on your own who might still be interested in pursuing a relationship with someone I only have one piece of advice for you: you are entitled to more than tolerance.

You, as a unique transgender person should be able to be with someone as unique as you are. We may be part of a tiny minority of the population but perhaps there is someone out there in an equally small segment waiting for you. Let's face it, being in a less than validating situation is inferior to being on one’s own which means you can take your time and wait for the right train to arrive.

There is no right age for this and, just as it is not too late for anyone to transition, it is not too late to find the right partner if that's what you want. Just keep telling yourself that you are worth it and wait for someone who believes it too.

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NB: my doctor's other transgender patient who was finally transitioning at age 64, just had her GRS and she sent a note to the receptionist saying: "It's a girl!"

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  1. Joanna: "For those of you on your own who might still be interested in pursuing a relationship with someone I only have one piece of advice for you: you are entitled to more than tolerance."

    Of course I am and I wonder what happened that prompted you to think and write this. Goodness gracious, having been married twice and having had several close relationships before my marriages, and at 61 years of age, I have a much much higher bar to a loving partnership than mere tolerance!

    But that word rang a bell for me. Last Summer after I'd decided to settle down somewhere in the greater Seattle area I pondered where exactly I might reside. There are many appealing areas here! It occurred to me that I didn't want to live in a community that merely offered tolerance. I wanted to be where I'd be welcomed with open arms. Thankfully I found that Seattle proper generally offers this.

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    1. I didn't doubt for a moment that your bar would indeed be higher Emma :)

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