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framing language

People who are opposed to transgender people are used to thinking in reverse. They use language such as the “transgender agenda” to decry the forcing of our acceptance into society as if we were creating new rules for them. Instead of simply asking for tolerance to lead our own lives as we desire, we are akin to an invading army. But then insisting on rights which do not affect anyone else wouldn’t be as powerful an argument for these dogmatic conservatives.

When you frame a plea for tolerance as an imposition we suddenly become a conquering enemy instead of an oppressed group. Hence, using a woman’s toilet suddenly becomes about infringing on women’s rights rather than a desire on our part not to be victimized in the men's room. Our argument should be common sense to a rational person but we are not dealing with rational people here.

Painting transgender people as a group wanting to impose itself on others is far easier and allows for argumentation that encourages our continued oppression. It is the same type of reasoning that was used against African Americans during the civil rights movement who were supposed to know their place and not infringe on the rights of the white majority. Clearly, people who don’t think objectively are everywhere in this world and are victims to their own twisted dogmas which must necessarily bend the truth to encourage adherence to their ideas.

How deeply unfortunate then that in 2018 we must still deal with the interminably stupid and that Massachusetts of all places (the first state to approve gay marriage) may be going the way of backward and fear mongering North Carolina...

https://www.bostonglobe.com/metro/2018/04/19/heart-transgender-ballot-question-fearmongering-and-distaste-for-differences/JrTu5lvbnCROcBY2P8AY0H/story.html#comments




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