who versus what

Navigating the world as a woman is fascinating and I have learned so much since I began to live part time.

I have learned (as Connie often likes to say here) much about who I am than what I am. "What I am" is about labeling myself while "who I am" is about self comprehension and introspection. It is the latter which gives your soul sustinence.

The more I have delved into who I am, the less I have worried about the trappings of the world and relaxed into becoming myself.

I strongly recommend you work on this because it is extremely freeing and, as transgender people, it is a prerequisite to internal growth and peace. Although the precise instance when you reach that echelon is hard to measure, you will feel it when you're there.

This coming Wednesday I see Dr. Morris again which has been a long wait but perfect timing for a turtle like me. I don't yet know what I will say or do but you can be sure all will be measured and reflected on very carefully.


  1. Thanks for the shout out, Joanna! I have actually been contemplating the who/what question today, since the news of the Trump administration's reported plan to eliminate trans people from Title IX protections.

    I have long since decided that I will always be defined by others for what they may think I am, but no one but myself will ever define who I am. The thing that had kept me from knowing myself for who I am was my fear of what others thought of me - what they saw me to be. I would like to say that I had lost that fear two years ago, and I really thought that I had. This news of my government wanting to define me as some thing (not even something) that, apparently, doesn't warrant a "what", let alone a "who," has allowed for a little of that old fear creeping in.

    It's not enough that I know who I am (I'm still confident in that); I relish the opportunities to share who I am with others - no matter what they may have defined me to be. I've often said that I'm not so much an advocate for trans rights as I am an ambassador for trans people. I can only imagine this to be a more-difficult task should this new "definition" become law.

    I am also very concerned for those who are still struggling with the "what" and have not yet accepted the "who" of themselves. I see and hear the reactive cry that "You can't erase me." It's true, when speaking of who you are, and that's why it's important to really know yourself. Not even someone else's bad science can erase that.

    1. Bravo and well said. Those dimwits better get ready for a huge fight cause they're gonna get one


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