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mission accomplished

I've made a recent discovery: I've been using the wrong shade of foundation. It wasn't an awful choice but just a tad too yellow and by switching one shade over it made all the difference. One of the young women who works at at Sephora noticed and helped me to realize it. Halle also mentioned it during our lunch so this was a call to action.

However I had already bought another Sephora number 31 and so I crossed my fingers upon returning the next day that I could exchange it for a number 30 without having the bill.

I was greeted at the door and I explained my dilemma.

"Do you have your beauty insider card? With that we can verify your purchase and there will be no problem"

Sure enough I had the card and was so happy because otherwise it was $25 I wouldn't let go to waste and be forced to use the foundation.

I got the right shade, thanked the young woman at the cash and the one who had greeted me at the door and I was on my way.

Mission accomplished.


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