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the exception

This blog is increasingly focusing on independence of thought and liberation from societal oppression because I believe this is the key to our mental health as individuals. The better we learn to discern and filter the everyday irrational in our lives, the more healthy our mental state will be.

Much of what we have been taught as children and adolescents were simply customs passed on to us from previous generations and examining them under the magnifying glass of our concious psyches is probably a very healthy thing to do. I am not referring here to obvious things regarding public safety but of more obscure and strange religious and secular myths which have burrowed their way into our collective concisousness as dogma when in fact they are not.

That liberation of spirit brings with it a whole host of benefits but primarily it frees the mind from needless pressures which are, at their root, embedded in irrationality. Anytime we are confronted with such emphatic pronouncements, we should be automatically be using our questioning natures to ask ourselves if they make sense.

Assuming that societies function on logic as a norm is a dangerous premise, because it is entirely the opposite. It is the exception.


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