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the power in being single

For certain, there can be great comfort in being in the right relationship but there can also be a considerable amount of suffering when one is not. Each state has a beauty and while we are single we can still be romantics and imagine the kind of person who could walk hand in hand with us through life.

While we are on our own, our image of that individual may be carved out in our minds but we don't pine for them; instead we allow life to work organically while we develop and improve ourselves as individuals.

Then, when your paths cross by happenstance one day, we will be that much more apt to recognize them. We remain open to that rare spiritual connection and things may come on their own.

And then again, they may not...


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  1. Good relationships improve our lives, bad ones diminish them. Being single isn't bad when you realize that we don't need other people to complete us.

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    1. Right you are although a good relationship lifts us up. The hard part is finding it 😉

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