To the best of my memory my mother did nothing to encourage my behavior and in fact it was she whose severe verbal scolding I will always credit for my taking any crossdressing activity underground. I wasn’t older than 4 years old when she admonished me for wearing her shoes. I have asked her about this over the years and, besides the shoe episode, she saw no signs from me that I was anything but a normal boy. I did my best to fit in and show no signs of effeminacy which I would only permit myself to exhibit in the privacy of my room.
To what degree transsexualism is both a nature and nurture combination is hard to know and there are different stories out there which differ from transsexuals themselves. My own thinking is that nature is the bigger component which is then helped along by a social setting which feeds it. In other words, we are born with a disposition for gender identity which is to some degree shaped through socialization. There are many transsexuals like me who have not transitioned and most of us belong to that generation who did not know what was wrong with us. Young people today have the luxury of not only having the internet but an entire medical system replete with information on psychological help, hormone treatment and surgery options.
Those of us who are older invented lives ignoring our feelings and hoped they went away but they didn’t. We simply swept them under the rug until they came back with a vengeful force demanding our attention.