I then took the opportunity to speak to her about what I thought would be the best way to handle my being trans. She was very curious because she wanted to do the right thing so I told her to only tell if people asked. In other words, if someone suspected I might be trans and asked her, she was free to respond affirmatively. Otherwise, she was to not say anything. She thought this a grand idea and it took the pressure off her as to what to do. To date, no one has asked her anything and I suspect that, to many, I am just a woman who works with her.
For example, young Tanya an architect who also helps part time, addresses me as a woman and has not said that she suspects otherwise to Patricia. The evening of that presentation a few weeks ago we were both in the ladies room conversing and I have never gotten the slightest feeling from her that she knows.
I am not overly concerned about this, however I also don't think that trumpeting that I am trans has any merit. If people suspect and say nothing that works fine for me too.