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afterthoughts

If you read the Blanchard interview I posted, you will note what happens when an uninformed but motivated conservative seeks to use some unproven pseudoscience to drive home an agenda. In this case it is to dispel what they call "transgender orthodoxy" except that there is no such thing. Trans people simply want respect and to be left alone to lead their lives which they aren't often allowed to do in a world where some see them as abominations.

Thankfully at the ground floor of the everyday experience most people aren't motivated by agenda like both the National Review and Blanchard are. My experience is that if you are a decent and dignified trans person, most people will give you the benefit of the doubt. This we can be thankful for.

Certainly not everyone will read such an article save for the dogmatic conservative already primed for the message. However even they may be forced to rethink things when encountering a trans person they might be tempted to like and even respect.

People who aren't trans don't understand what it is like to be us and even we don't understand our origins. That alone should make you especially suspicious of anyone who claims to speak definitively and, in the case of Blanchard, even smugly about a subject we have only begun to scratch the surface of.

That is why that I would counsel that as a trans person you should simply trust your feelings and leave it at that.

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